》Female sexual dysfunction is real
》Same as male sexual dysfunction
[[1. Scheduling Time For Sex]]
● Anticipate sex when it is looked forward to.
● brings back the fun
●Focus on task ahead
● Look forward to having sex
● desire must come first
● Saturday day, Sunday.
● whatever works for you.
● this takes the pressure off the other days.
[[2. Understand the complexity of the female sexual anatomy.]]
● Know the pleasure points
● What does she like most?
● Know the labia, the clit, the vagina
● The clitoris is neglected by most men
● Pleasure the clitoris well
● The clitoris is well innervated.
● Vaginal orgasm is rare
● Penis inside the vagina sex alone, boring
● Stimulate the clitoris well before penetration
● See if you can locate the g spot
● Focus on the clitoris
● She will get there.
● Give her oral stimulation if it pleasures her. [head]
● stroke her body to instructions
[[3. Prioritize Her, Not You ]]
● It is about satisfying her, not you
● use hands
● use mouth
● use vibrators
● whatever she loves indulge
● most penises are big dumb animals [ no jokes]
●Use your hand and mouth well, if you get tired use something battery powered!!
●Women wanna feel desired.
[[ 4. Go Slow ]]
● No hurry
● Go at her pace
● on the average, women take up to 30 minutes, from start of sex to get to orgasms
● be patient
● men take about 3 to 5 minutes to orgasm
● women pleasure differently
● sex is not when the penis goes into the vagina,
● sex is the totality of all the pre vaginal penetration and the after cum aftermath.
● all touches ARE IMPORTANT,
● majority of women will orgasm even without the penis inside if stimulated well
● premature ejaculation sucks
● expand your views about sex
[[ 5. Use LUBRICANTS ]]
●Lubes Are 👏 Amazing
● Different types of lube
● wetness or not wetness ,use liberally!!
● lubes make gliding more enjoyable
● lubes leads to more pleasure
● use water based lubes
● use liberally
● desiring and arousal is there
[[ 6. Desire Mismatch Problems ]]
● Men have more desire than women
● Two different people with different tastes and desires
● Meet each other half way
● You may not get all your satisfaction from your woman, you can help yourself!!
[[ 7 Communication ]]
● Communication is KING
● Set the mood right
● Do it all the way
○ talk about it
○ it might be awkward , BUT COMMUNICATE
○ make it about you
○ use inclusive
▪︎See a urologist if you are having sexual dysfunction problems
● see a sex therapist
1● Low desire
2● Pre ejaculation issues
REMEMBER, MAKE LOVE, MAKE BABIES THIS SEASON!
The People’s Doc.
SGHS , Dec 2021